When we discover our natural man[1] we have two roads we can travel. The first road is the one of least resistance. We avoid rooting the natural man out of us, preferring instead to go it alone, hoping that by ignoring or avoiding his influence, he will quietly go away. The path of least resistance is one of avoidance, which allows our weakness[2] to thrive and grow.
We exert energy blaming others for our shortcomings. We attempt to get others to see it our way (tell) and we live in a state of anger, trying to control others by exercising dominion over them. When we discover our weakness (addiction) we can sink into despair (shame) and discount the saving power of God.