What is Forgiveness?

What is FORGIVENESS?

  • Forgiveness is the peace you learn to feel
  • Forgiveness is for you and not the offender.
  • Forgiveness is taking back your power.
  • Forgiveness is taking responsibility for how you feel.
  • Forgiveness is about your healing and not about the people who hurt you.
  • Forgiveness is a trainable skill just like learning to throw a baseball.
  • Forgiveness helps you get control over your feelings.
  • Forgiveness can improve your mental and physical health.
  • Forgiveness is becoming a hero instead of a victim.
  • Forgiveness is a choice.
  • Everyone can learn to forgive.

What FORGIVENESS is not

  • Forgiveness is not condoning unkindness.
  • Forgiveness is not forgetting that something painful happened.
  • Forgiveness is not excusing poor behavior.
  • Forgiveness does not have to be an otherworldly or religious experience.
  • Forgiveness is not denying or minimizing your hurt.
  • Forgiveness does not mean reconciling with the offender.
  • Forgiveness does not mean you give up having feelings.

Taken from Dr. Fred Luskin’s book: Forgive For Good

 

 

Published by

Richard Himmer

Author, PhD in Organizational Psychology.